Chapter 1: An introduction to grief
Everyone grieves in their own way
There are some days I wake up and find myself struggling to even believe he died. When that happens, the sadness starts all over again.
Not everyone expresses their grief in the same way. Even those experiencing the same loss may grieve differently. They might be overcome by sorrow or anger; talk openly or close down; get “busy”; or avoid people altogether. You may feel alone in your grief if others appear to have a different response to the loss. Watch the video on the right to learn more.
What affects your grief
Many factors may impact your grief. Click on the arrows below for some examples.
Your relationship with the person who died.
The circumstances of your loss.
Your values and beliefs.
How you usually cope with distress, and other losses you’ve experienced.
What else is happening in your life, such as a new job; moving; separation or divorce; your physical and mental well-being; or financial struggles.
It’s not just one loss
You may experience a variety of losses with one death. These are referred to as “secondary” losses. These losses are connected to your relationship and the role the person had in your life, and the one you played in theirs. Losses may also be related to hopes, dreams, and expectations about the future.