Chapter 2: Finding support

From professionals and outside resources

I've been there
Zoe encourages taking time to make the decision that is right for you.(3:22)Video transcript
The grief expert says
Carol discusses how the level of support received helps a family in their grief.(3:22)Video transcript
Carol speaks about accessing perinatal loss group support and community online.(3:22)Video transcript

There is so much validation in the support group. I don’t feel like I am crazy or alone. For example, buying something for a child who no longer lives isn't seen as crazy. They get it; they have done it too.

I was angry, and that can still come in waves; but it was important for me to seek support from people who related to how I felt.

Healthcare providers

Your primary healthcare provider may be able to provide support or recommend local resources. They may also be able to provide a letter to your employer, supporting a leave of absence from work.

Group support

Many parents report positive outcomes following their attendance in perinatal loss support groups. These can be facilitated by a therapist/counsellor, or peer-led by other bereaved parents. Support groups can provide reassurance that you are not alone, and that others have lived a similar experience.

Every province will have different options for support. An excellent resource to locate services in your community is through the PAIL (Pregnancy and Infant Loss) Network. *See link below. 


Therapist support

Different therapists have different approaches and areas of specialty. It’s important to find a therapist that understands and is experienced in grief and bereavement after a pregnancy loss. Below are several tips to help you find the best therapist or counsellor for you. Click on the arrows to view.

You may find that you prefer one type of support over others. You may also find that different kinds of support help with different aspects of your grief. Likewise, you may also find that some types of outside support are not a good fit for you. It’s important to do what works best for you.

*Many therapists advertise their areas of specialty on websites designed to assist families in finding the best counsellor to meet their needs (link below).

Helpful resources - Sunnybrook Pregnancy and Infant Loss Network offers free group and individual peer-support services to families across Ontario - Expert-authored information about psychology and mental health and free access to hundreds of thousands of professionals