Chapter 4: When your parent dies

When your last parent has died

My mom died when I was in my twenties, and I don’t have siblings, so it was just Dad and I for the last 33 years. It’s been a really challenging year since he died. It’s hard to describe the loneliness. Despite having some really great friends, I still feel lonely…even when I’m with them.

Regardless of how old you are when your last parent dies, you are now part of the oldest generation within your family. This can be a profound and sometimes frightening realization when you are confronted with new responsibilities or independence. Below are several other ways you may feel. Click on each one to view more information.

What may help

Consider which parts of your parent’s legacy you wish to take forward with you in your life. Which values, beliefs, and memories are important to you? Are there other parts that you wish to discard or say goodbye to?

Share stories and memories with family and friends. Consider creating a memorial to your parent or parents.

Helpful resources - Module 4: Moving through grief