Chapter 1: An introduction to grief

How grief may affect you

The grief expert says
Chris speaks about how there is no blueprint for grief or how we respond to loss.(3:22)Video transcript

When he died, my heart broke into a million little pieces. It’s back together now but the scars will always be there.

Ways grief may affect you

Grief can affect your emotions, your thinking, and your behaviour. It can also affect how your body feels. Click on each of the boxes below to see some of the ways grief may affect you.

You may have:

  • Conflicting feelings, such as sadness and relief.
  • Intense feelings that might surprise or shock you.
  • Unpredictable feelings – Feeling you’re doing “okay” and then suddenly feeling knocked over by a wave of emotion.
  • Feelings of isolation – Even if you have people who care about you close by, you might still feel lonely.


Grief often changes you; and it changes over time. After a while it may take up less energy. This doesn’t mean forgetting your grandparent. You can carry their memory forward, remembering all aspects of who they were – what you found most challenging, what you cherished most, or both. You can continue to have relationships in a different way with the people who are important to you, even though they’re no longer physically present.