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Module 4: Moving through grief
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Module 1: Grieving before the loss
  • Grieving before the loss
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: What am I feeling?
    • Introduction
    • Common reactions
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: What can I do?
    • Introduction
    • Taking care of financial and practical matters
    • Making the most of the time remaining
    • Supporting children
    • Families in conflict
    • Celebrating life
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 3: I need some help
    • Introduction
    • Asking for help from friends and family
    • Asking for help from a professional
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 4: Conversations at the end of life
    • Introduction
    • Unfinished business
    • Talking with the dying person
    • When the person is asleep or unconscious
    • Keeping secrets about death
    • Talking to the dying person with delirium
    • Your final talk
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 5: The moment of death
    • Introduction
    • Being present at the moment of death
    • Shock
    • Religious and cultural traditions
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 2: Understanding grief
  • Understanding grief
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: How you are grieving is important
    • Introduction
    • Am I reacting normally?
    • Common questions, thoughts and feelings
    • When will I feel normal again?
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: What does grief look and feel like?
    • Introduction
    • How grief affects your emotions
    • How grief affects your thoughts
    • How grief affects your behaviour
    • How grief affects your body
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 3: Common experiences
    • Introduction
    • When family and friends stop talking about the person who died
    • Small things trigger grief
    • Spiritual and religious questions
    • Will life be meaningful again?
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 4: Why am I feeling this way?
    • Introduction
    • What was your relationship like?
    • How did the person die?
    • Culture and grieving
    • Gender and grieving
    • Other losses
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 5: Is there a right way to grieve?
    • Introduction
    • 10 myths about grieving
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 3: How has this loss affected my family and me?
  • How has this loss affected my family and me?
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: What did this relationship mean to me?
    • Introduction
    • How has this relationship affected me?
    • This was a long relationship
    • This was a short relationship
    • This was a less common but close relationship
    • This relationship was not recognized by others
    • This relationship was complicated
    • Working on a difficult relationship after death
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: When someone in your family dies
    • When someone in your family dies
    • Losing a spouse or partner
    • Losing a child or grandchild
    • Losing a parent
    • Losing a sibling
    • Losing a grandparent
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 3: How has this loss affected my family?
    • How has this loss affected my family?
    • Talking with my family about this loss
    • Why does each member of my family react so differently?
    • Taking over responsibilities
    • Key ideas
    • Section Summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 4: Moving through grief
  • Moving through grief
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: How can I move through this loss?
    • How can I move through this loss?
    • Accepting the death
    • What have I lost?
    • Who am I now?
    • Facing grief
    • Happiness and guilt
    • Where did everyone go?
    • How do I recognize and respect my limits?
    • When the relationship was difficult
    • What can I do with all of the stuff?
    • Griefbursts
    • Keeping the person in your life
    • Remembering and honouring
    • Rethinking your personal story
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: Stuck in grief
    • Stuck in grief
    • Thoughts that keep you stuck
    • Actions that keep you stuck
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 5: Making sense of intense emotions
  • Making sense of intense emotions
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: Coping with your anger
    • Introduction
    • What is anger?
    • Understanding your anger
    • Stories about coping with anger
    • Key Ideas
  • Chapter 2: Coping with your guilt
    • Introduction
    • Why do I feel so guilty?
    • How reasonable is your guilt?
    • Stories about coping with guilt
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 3: Coping with your fear
    • Introduction
    • What is fear?
    • Understanding your fear
    • Stories about coping with fear
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 4: Coping with your sadness
    • Introduction
    • What is sadness?
    • Understanding your sadness
    • Stories about coping with sadness
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 5: Coping with your loneliness
    • Introduction
    • What is loneliness?
    • Understanding your loneliness
    • Stories about coping with loneliness
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 6: Managing difficult situations
  • Managing difficult situations
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: Triggers of grief
    • Introduction
    • Family reminders of the person who died
    • Special events and days
    • Places and activities
    • Special objects and scents
    • Coincidences
    • Managing triggers of grief
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: Common situations
    • Introduction
    • Clumsy condolences
    • Managing unhelpful advice
    • Re-engaging with difficult family members
    • Sorting through belongings
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 3: Living without my spouse or partner
    • Introduction
    • Going out alone
    • Parenting alone
    • Guilt and single parenting
    • Making decisions on my own
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 7: Caring for yourself
  • Chapter 1: Caring for yourself
    • Introduction
    • How can I be kinder to myself?
    • Why is it so hard to be kind to myself?
    • How can I find support?
    • How do I take care of myself?
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 8: Do I need more help and where do I find it?
  • Do I need more help and where do I find it?
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: When do I need help coping?
    • Introduction
    • What if life is not getting better?
    • Is it grief or depression?
    • Grief and depression are not the same thing
    • Thoughts of harming yourself
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: Where do I get help?
    • Introduction
    • Friends, family and spiritual community
    • Grief support groups
    • Counselling
    • Online support: two websites
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 9: When life starts to get better
  • When life starts to get better
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 1: What does “feeling better” look and feel like?
    • Introduction
    • Signs of feeling better
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 2: How can I keep the person who died in my life?
    • Introduction
    • Remembering the person who has died
    • Life prayers
    • Key ideas
  • Chapter 3: How can I adjust to my new roles and responsibilities?
    • Introduction
  • Chapter 4: Am I ready to start a new relationship?
    • Introduction
    • A new relationship
    • New relationships can be complicated
    • Key ideas
    • Section summary
  • MyGrief.ca survey
COVID-19 and grief
  • For people working in healthcare: Module 1 - COVID-19 and grief
    • Module introduction
  • Chapter 1: The impact of COVID-19
    • Introduction
    • For you
    • The healthcare system
  • Chapter 2: Stressors and challenges
    • Introduction
    • Stress or grief?
    • Personal values
    • Beware of burnout
    • Chronic Stress
  • Chapter 3: Grief and COVID-19
    • Introduction
    • What is work-related grief?
    • Unrecognized grief
    • Burden of knowledge
    • Cumulative grief
    • Traumatic grief
    • Attending to your grief
  • Chapter 4: Factors that impact grief
    • Introduction
    • Situations at work
    • Long term care and community care settings
    • Rural and remote communities
  • Chapter 5: Staying well during COVID-19
    • Introduction
    • Strategies at work
    • Caring for your grief
  • Module 1 Summary
    • In summary
  • Resources
    • Resources
  • MyGrief.ca survey
Module 4: Moving through grief

Chapter 1: How can I move through this loss?

Accepting the death

It’s hard to believe he’s gone.

Loss is one of life's harsh realities. Time flows in one direction and none of us can go back. People generally struggle with loss. We become rigid and closed to the changes necessary if we are to accept our loss, even though this resistance can hurt us.

It is common to continue making new discoveries about loss as time goes by. When we fully acknowledge the reality of death, no matter how painful, we usually start to feel better.


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