Chapter 2: When someone in your family dies
Losing a child or grandchild
In addition to grieving the loss of your child, you may also grieve your caregiving role. Perhaps you also notice that family roles and responsibilities are unbalanced and being reorganized. This can create more tension as family members express their grief in different ways.
Try to be compassionate with yourself during this painful and disorienting time. Keep in mind that grief varies from person to person even within the same family.
Losing a child affects one's social life. You may be too exhausted to socialize, or you may find being around friends with children the same age as your child triggers grief.
Connecting with other grieving parents can be reassuring and help you feel less alone.
It is common to feel the world is less safe following the loss of a child. Many parents are conflicted - over-protecting their surviving children while wanting them to live life to the fullest.
Some parents find comfort in their faith. Others find their belief in a higher power is challenged - leaving them feeling even more off balance.
These feelings are all natural and common. Many parents find it helpful to write about their feelings or to talk to someone.
“I didn't know how much my identity was attached to being his mother. It's like a huge part of me died with him. "
After the loss of a child, some parents wonder if they are still the parents of their child. The question "How many children do you have? It’s not easy.
Your decision to disclose your child's death can change from day to day. It's normal. Many parents come to realize that death does not end their relationship. Their child is still their child, and they will always be the parent of that child.