Chapter 1: What did this relationship mean to me?
This relationship was not recognized by others
After the death of a secret romantic partner, it may be very hard to tell others what the loss means to you.
Grieving the death of a same-sex or transgendered partner can be especially stressful if your relationship was not accepted by your family or community. Feeling that family or friends would have disapproved can leave you feeling isolated. It is important to have the support of allies. Grieving a secret relationship by yourself can be overwhelming.
How does this relationship affect my grief?
You might be coping with your grief alone. People often feel isolated in their grief; an unrecognized relationship can make those feelings even stronger.